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Love is a beautiful Thing, as said by an African songwriter and musician named Oladapo Daniel Oyebanjo popularly known as “Dbanj” in one of his hit tracks album, i imagined what would have pushed him to confession if not the feeling of love either through music or for real, He must have understood what it took to been in love, no one will believe he could actually be in love, for he looked unready, not until presently because he is happily married with kids; I feel the cane of love flogged him to confessing when he realized he couldn’t bear it any further, that was when the prove of love came in through his music to whomever. *LOL*,. Anyways, it just what I felt happened not 100% sure…
Comparing the different genders in term to who bears the feeling more when it comes to realities of Love, back in the 70’s and 80’s, the feelings of love was so strong, as a matter of fact we could see many results through our parents whom are still alive, condolence to those that has loss theirs’. Whenever I sit out with my parents, I enjoy their ways of understanding one another, their tolerance when having internal misunderstanding unaware to their kids, they know how to settle themselves without yelling, arguing nor talking it to a third party, they are so interesting I would wish the kind of Love, Respect and Home like theirs’. I could remember a day I suspected there was issue between them, I wouldn’t know what had happened though I suspected, he realized I noticed, he would never say nor create aware to members of the family what had happened, I saw both faces., he looked at my direction while she sat at the other end on a couch, he looked at her direction, as he turned his face toward mine, he smiled and called her pet name. *LOL*… its didn’t end there, he continued with some laughable news to see her either laugh or start up with a conversation. They are still happily together till forever.
if there is something else as true love other than what parents do, I wouldn’t know and beside there are more hidden things about love. The new generation gender developed theories of love in ways they understands it; “No love without Money”. *Awww*… Still finding it difficult to understand that phrase, my parent never taught me that, I didn’t grow up noticing that from older generations, more reasons long lasting marriage anniversary exist, the likes of pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye of Redeem Christian church, Dr. Daniel Kolawole Olukoya (DKO) of mountain of fire ministry, bishop Simeon Okah of Flock of Christ mission, my parents, your parents and many more. Well, I suggest a course that shall covers what love really entails to be introduce in tertiary institutions for dispensation to new generation of modern civilization., Bob Marley sang about love; “I wanna love you and treat you right, every day, every night we’ll be together with prove holding our hands, we share the shelter, we share the room, is this love that am feeling?”… these are feelings of the 70’s and 80’s, they might not understand love, they definitely know the feeling which keeps them going., Meanwhile, the song has a question in it; “Is this LOVE that am feeling?”. *Smile*, anyways, he confessed of his feeling before the question.
Comparing the new generation, A young man gets his riches from unreliable source, spends like he prints currencies in his room, lives expensive life styles, without quality investments, and another whom is not as rich as the first illustration but has a good physique, handsome, fair or dark, pink lips along with swag at his level but he’s not hardworking, dependant on either parents or inherited properties., A young promising lady would be distracted, convinced by these qualities hoping is where love exist. well, it might work for both, but only few percent out of 100% are successful based on statistic from the entertainment industry and world at large encouraging divorces., Many relationships and fresh homes are short lived due to lack of understanding love nature; not realizing that, it is not based on the riches that can be spent, the six packs chest, the pink lips, the lavish lifestyles and height. it can not be measure neither rated by these qualities even at a first decade of togetherness. its a forever feelings with endurance, perseverance, tolerance, understanding and attitude. who should be blame; for abusing the feeling of love, most at times, infatuation is mistaken for love and it ends at breakup, divorce. when these qualities are fade, not maintained and unable carry along necessary needs; polemic issues comes in, most times when not handled with care and wisdom; it Crashes.. Oooh!!!, What a life.
I was once a victim of such circumstance., it affected me physically, emotionally and morally, its made me looney at some point, disliked the opposite sex. I had to put myself together to move on where I found most sincere love apart from God’s love. From personal researches and references to the Bible, the world as Whole; little children and parent are reliable beings to find then get true, sincere and passionate love., if kids love, they loves for real., it is known that Parents wouldn’t love to see their children go through pain no matter what happens. the Bible confirm in Psalm 127 vs 3-5; .3. Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. And what the Bible says about parental love in Genesis 37:35; Then all his sons and all his daughters arose to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. And he said, “Surely I will go down to Sheol in mourning for my son.” So his father wept for him. These are reflections of true love and how to find it., True love exist every where only when patience is applied, patience is virtue, determination is a plus.
The feeling a man have when in love is proportionally equal to the same mood a woman feels when in love. From personal research. YEAH… I mean; comparing and contrasting responses I heard from different genders during a personal research. A line of lyrics from a song by a known American songwriter named Taylor Alison Swift;
This love is difficult, but it’s real.
WHO SHOULD BE BLAME?…..
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